The Unspoken Matter

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I’m so honored to post the first topic..but

Firstly, I would like say something about my friend above
Som-O is the one whom I can call her as friend with my whole heart….
Her heart is made of gold!!!



………………Let’s start with something I am so upset and hesitated to talk about…
It is a taboo issue which is about sex. Thais will feel awkward talking about it in public. They will say like, it was the too personal affair. I once see the picture in the temple, that picture showing the man caress the woman sexually. He touched her bosom with pleasant countenance and she is too. And it is painted on the wall of Ubosod, in such religious place. So it is strange to me that sexual pictures are painted in temple openly. But it is rarely to see this kind of pictures.

People will regarded one who talked about sex as vulgar, uneducated and seriously ill-mannered, etc. But honestly, I am one talking oftenly about this topic with friends as long as they dare to ask, I will dare to answer. And it was like “are we invading their personal territory?” or “Am I too open?”. Of course, my friend will have some ideas about myself which I cannot control them at all.

When things are made to become unspoken, it is silenced, what happen to that issue? People will try to learn it in secret, I am shocked when my boyfriend try to use the techniques of foreplay he sees from the AV movie. I am not insulting it, but I don’t like that technique. Rather than relaxing, it made me annoyed and refused to sleep with him. I think AV movies always shows the same techniques of foreplaying they think they mostly makes women pleasing, but I will say that it is nonsense to me.

I and my friends always shares about this experiences, I sometimes think it is profounding time to me to learn that many women are not satisfied with sex life. I see many male magazines suggesting man with sexual problems in very ridiculous ways to me. Sometimes men care about their sizes and their sexual positions. They are like jokes to me and what I used to believe that men are expert in sex is not true at all. This is because men never let women freely talk about their sexual feelings. My gal friends confessed to me that she pretended to cry or screaming like she was in orgasm to her bf but she was actually not. S o I think sex may be not really entertainment, it is just acting.

I think sex can be both fun and boring matter, it will not always be enjoyable like the male magazine suggestion. It may be happy today and disappointing tomorrow. Male is so falsely proud that they can make woman happy. What I want to say is HAHAHA.

Thus, can we sure that male magazine is the best guideline for our sex life. NO!!! Even in female magazine, they also describe sex as a drama movie. It’s like sentimental and spiritual matter. What a …….!!!! lie to me. Sex in female magazine is like the beautiful journey full of imaginative and sensual pleasure. Oh goshhh!! I think many women are trapped by this fairytale( like me for many years). And woman is expected to please man in sex as well.

Sex for me is the hygienic, trusting and chukling matter, the partner should be sure they both are not having sexual disease like STD, HIV, etc. Because it will not fun to get the gonorrhea or abnormal leucorrhea after we have sex. Then I can trust him that he will not force me to have unwillinged sex. I can request and refuse it if I want. That man must understand that where he should touch my body and where he shouldn’t. He must listen to me when I get the problems with my period and he is willingly solving my problems by seeing doctors or study from the health articles. He and me will choose together how to use contraceptive to prevent unwanted pregnancy. I and him can laugh when sex is not really fun and not feel really bad to each other. We can talk when the positions are not work and try another. I can have both the active and passive roles in sex. Oh sex is such complicated thing. Right????